Thursday, March 31, 2011

I Wish You Could See Me Now...

"I wish you could see me now...
I wish I could show you how,
I'm not who I was

This is a snipette from one of my favorite songs - I'm Not Who I Was by Brandon Heath.

Every time I hear it, I think of you. And on this particular day, I wish you could see me now.

I wish you could see how many people love me. See how many are celebrating my 3 years of sobriety with me. See how people smile when I come into a room and say they I've made their lives a better place.

I wish you could you could have seen me sober. How I'm coming back to the little girl I used to be. Back to the "Treasure" you used to know.

I wish you could see my daughter, tickle her at bedtime and make your funny faces until she pleaded for you to stop, giggling uncontrollably the whole time.

I wish you could see the mommy I've become.

I wish I wasn't wearing your wife's engagement ring; that she still wore it instead.

I wish you could wear her lipstick kisses on your forehead all morning as you read the paper and eat your Grape Nuts cereal.

I wish you could see that I'm ok and am getting stronger every year that I continue to allow sobriety to work it's magic in my life.

I wish you could know that I finally found my passion and want to return to college. And if I do, I wish you could be there on graduation day to cheer me on like you were before.

I wish you could know how much I miss you sometimes. How much I love you.

How the tears filling my eyes are not only of sorrow but of simple gratitude that you loved me.

I know somehow, somewhere you are watching over me. I believe I will see you again though never too soon.

I wish you could be here now. I wish I could show you how I'm never quite right with you gone, no matter how great things are.

I wish you could see me now. I wish I could show you how I'm not who I was.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Standing Up for Animals, with Knocking Knees

The countdown has's getting close to the zero hour. Time to put my big girl panties on and see just how courageous I can be. It's going to be interesting to see what my God will do with me today.

Most of you know I have made a decision to head down to downtown Las Vegas this afternoon to attend the video conferencing of Senate Bill Hearing for SB223, "Cooney's Law". Now I've decided to prepare a statement for today on behalf of this Bill. I'm scared to death.

I have a wealth of support from family and friends. The Facebook Cause created in support of SB223 has reached almost 400 members - AMAZING. Some of those closest to me have made written statements that I'm taking with me. I haven't sat down to create my own statement...until now.

I'm a tax paying, voting citizen of Clark County, Nevada. I'm a working mother with a 6-year old and some wonderful pets. These pets add value to our lives and it's a great pleasure having them as a part of our family.

My support for Senate Bill 223 is not based on emotions that were felt after reading about the tragic death that Cooney endured. Nor is my support strictly centered around the fact that an animal was so brutally and senselessly murdered. My support for Cooney's Law involves more than what happened to Cooney alone - it encompasses my desire to do the right thing, not only for innocent animals but for our children, our community, our great State of Nevada.

Nevada would not be alone if she were to adopt this Bill into existence. I believe she would rank 45th in line with other states that took this bold step UP to enhance our criminal laws to include those without a voice. Nevada would be one of a few States left to miss this opportunity if this Bill were to fail.

My friend Jennifer L. Wells reminded me just this morning that this Bill brings to the table an inconvenient truth for those opposing it. I'm sure law enforcement does not want the burden of more paperwork or more crowded jails if this were to pass. Ranchers and farmers must not like the idea of being told just how to treat their livestock or to adjust their methods of tracking and processing the animals that are their property. And NO ONE wants to be hit in the wallet or have to re-line their pockets with actual fabric if this Bill makes it. It's inconvenient to say the least.

SB223 makes sense, common sense. People that commit these certain disturbing levels of abuse on animals are unhealthy, cruel, sick and unbalanced. Hurting or killing animals is easy for those that are capable of far worse for they know their actions will not be viewed as a "crime" and the punishment will not match; it won't even come close.

Such is the case of Raymond Rios of Reno, NV. Served with a misdemeanor charge only because of the actions taken by the Washoe County Animal Control Department, Mr. Rios was held accountable for his crime done to Cooney. But common sense asks most of us..."Should a person of his nature, of his mental state, of his temperment be allowed back into society with such ease?" It's insulting to our community that the existing laws do nothing to further protect us from individuals capable of such violence. For those that disagree with this statement, I'm sure you believe Mr. Rios's actions against Cooney seem excusable - afterall, Cooney WAS just an animal. Or maybe you can agree that Cooney shouldn't have been killed that way but why should you have to "pay" for someone else's actions? All I want to say to those feeling this way is that you're missing the entire point of this Bill. I'm sorry your existence and comfort are being threatened.

Our law enforcement is here to serve and protect. To allow the communities and families of this State the pleasure of raising our children in a society unpolluted with criminals and murderers that are just starting to wet their appetites by abusing and/or murdering animals.

Domestic abuse shelters and safe houses support this Bill. They have seen first hand the destruction of families where those abusing the power in the home and using animals as pawns in a deadly game of control and manipulation end up continuing their abuse. Some of those cases lead to death of children and adults. In three surveys in women's shelters in Wisconsin and Utah in the late 1990s, an average of 74% of pet-owning women reported that a pet had been threatened, injured or killed by the abusers. (Ascione 1995 & 1997 and Quinlisk, 1995). A survey of women in a safehouse in Utah found that 20% delayed leaving the abusive situation out of fear that their pet would be harmed. Data currently being collected in Canada found almost 50% delayed leaving. (Ascione, 1997)

The FBI uses animal cruelty as a profiling technique to predict who will go on to commit crimes against people, including children.

A 1997 study by the MSPCA and Northeastern University found that 70% of animal abusers had committed at least one other criminal offense and almost 40% had committed violent crimes against people.

A 1986 study reported that 48% of convicted rapists and 30% of convicted child molesters admitted perpetrating acts of animal cruelty in their childhood or adolescence. (Tingle et al, 1986)

A history of animal abuse was found in 25% of aggressive male criminals, 30% of convicted child molesters, 36% of those who assaulted women, and 46% of those convicted of sexual homicide. (Petrovoski, 1997)

A 1983 survey in New Jersey of families reported for child abuse found that in 88% of the families at least one person had abused animals. (Devine, Dickered & Lockwood, 1983)

I support Senate Bill 223 because I want to live in a safer Nevada, one that can be proactive in recognizing potential threats to my family and to those families I've come to know and love that live within my community.

It's easier to stay stagnant, complacent, stuck. It's harder to do what's right. Nothing comes easy that's worth having. We don't always see the actions of our ways, good or evil. I would like to think that my Senators and Legislation can see that direct benefits to themselves are not necessary or needed to make this State a better place to raise a family. If we can make a difference and strengthen our cruelty laws, maybe we have better chance at defeating those that can do us harm.

Thank you for allowing me this platform to express views that matter to me. I hope you can do the right thing too.

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Help Make Animal Abuse a FELONY

Sponsored by:

On October 7, 2010 Raymond Rios,a 46 year old transient living in his van used a box cutter to fatally wound his dog, "Cooney", a pit bull beagle mix. He claimed Cooney was in pain and said her stomach was bulging due to a mouse that had crawled inside of her. He pinned her down in the bathtub of a Reno, Nevada motel and sliced her open with a box cutter. He reported to Police that he squeezed her repeatedly in attempts to get the mouse out.

Rios took her body to the SPCA of Northern Nevada and told authorities what he had done to Cooney. The shelter manager contacted Reno Police Department who arrived to find Cooney's bloody, mutilated body in the back of Rios's van in a garbage bag.

The Police called Animal Control to pick up the remains and do a bite report as Cooney bit Rios several times during the incident. The Police did not arrest Rios. He was allowed to drive away as nothing happened. The Reno Police said they would submit the case for a warrant review...they never did.

Animal Control stepped in took the case over and sought out their own warrant. Rios was arrested December 24, 2010 for misdemeanor animal cruelty. He was found competent to stand trial and on February 14, 2011 plead guilty to misdemeanor animal cruelty.

He is now walking the streets after a short stint in jail and not allowed to have dogs for two years.

Cooney died a horrific and brutal death. Don't let it be in vain and honor her memory by signing this petition to support a Senate Bill 223 - attempting to make acts like this on animals a FELONY rather than a misdemeanor.

Please support Senate Bill 223 (SB223) in the current 2011 Nevada Legislative session. This bill, named "Cooney's Law", will make willfull and malicious acts of cruelty punishable by a felony.


Let's send a message to potential offenders and be the voice for the animals who have tragically lost their lives or been seriously injured.

Sign this petition for support of SB223. It goes to hearing on March 23, 2011 (next Wedneday).

As of 3-17-11 at 3:45pm PST - there were only 473 out of 10,000 signatures.

Petition Signatures Urged Before 3-23-11 Meeting at Nevada Legislature on Felony Cruelty Proposal SB223 after Dog Gutted by Owner

Kathleen Denning was the animal control officer called to dispose of the body of a dog named Cooney back in October 2010.

Raymond Rios, a few hours earlier, had sliced the dog open with a box cutter in a downtown Reno, NV motel and watched as the dog ran around the room, bleeding, her intestines falling out. She died of shock and blood loss.

Rios then took the dog to the SPCA of Northern Nevada, where he’d originally adopted her, and described to the staff there in great detail what he’d done.

Rios’ ex-wife told me that this was a common behavior of his and that he did it to get a horrified reaction out of others. He did.

The police pulled him over and found the dog. Rios confessed to everything and then was allowed to drive away because the most he could be charged with was a misdemeanor.

This bothered Denning — haunted her, she said — and she has worked to get legislation proposed that would make aggravated and intentional cruelty a felony in Nevada, as it is in more than 40 other states.

The proposal called SB223 will be heard at 3:30 p.m. Wednesday March 23, 2011 before the Natural Resources Committee at the Nevada Legislature in Carson City, Nevada.

Denning will present her case there for what she calls “Cooney’s Law,” speaking as a private citizen and not representing Washoe County Regional Animal Services. She urges others to come speak, too.

She is collecting signatures via petition through the website

“We get about 3 to 5 cases a year that rise to this level,” Denning said. “[The proposal] is basically adding aggravated or intentional cruelty to the books, which we don’t currently have."

“The FBI uses animal cruelty as a profiling technique to predict who will go onto commit crimes against people. And a 1997 study in Massachusetts found that people who commit aggravated animal cruelty, 40% committed another violent crime afterward.

“We need to send a message to potential offenders and be a voice for these animals who have been brutally murdered and have no justice in this case. Raymond Rios drove away that night as if nothing happened.”

Rios pleaded guilty to the misdemeanor and got a suspended sentence with time served and told he can’t own another dog for two years.


1. Sign petition at

2. Send emails and letters to legislators on the Natural Resources Committee. You can find their contact info at the Nevada Voters for Animals at

3. You can contact Denning to offer help at

Posted by MarkRobison at 3/17/2011 10:47 AM PDT on

The first committee hearing is scheduled for Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011 3:30 p.m.

Please contact the members of the Senate Natural Resources Committee:
Mark Manendo (Chair)

David Parks (Vice Chair)

Michael Roberson

John Lee

Dean Rhoads

Please ask them to support SB 223 (Cooney's Law).
Please note: Legislators will ONLY know the bill as SB 223.

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Adopt the Internet Day 2011

I love this cause!

Today is Adopt the Internet Day, an event organized by to spread the word about the importance of adopting companion animals from shelters and rescue groups. This is a mission we also champion at The Humane Society of the United States (HSUS), especially through the Shelter Pet Project. We’re sharing the message of shelter pet adoption nationwide through TV, radio, print, outdoor, and online advertisements.

Please join The HSUS in promoting pet adoption today through one or more of the following:

If you’ve adopted a pet, send The HSUS a photo at, along with a few sentences about where you adopted your pet and what he or she means to you. They’ll post a slideshow of selected photos on their blog, A Humane Nation,

“Like” the Shelter Pet Project on Facebook and donate your Facebook or Twitter status to pet adoption.

Sign The HSUS pledge to adopt your next companion animal.

Visit Petfinder’s Adopt the Internet Day page.

If you’re looking to add a new pet to your family, check out Petfinder’s special gallery of adoptable animals in your area.

As most of you know, I'm fostering Chrissy, a loving and sweet Chihuahua/terrier mix through the Las Vegas Valley Humane Society (LVVHS). They are always in need of more caring foster homes.

If you'd like to do something to give back and help better the life of a homeless pet, give them a call at (702) 434-2009 or visit their site at

Monday, March 14, 2011

Gilbert GottFIRED

Apparently I'm not the only one lacking a sense of humor by getting peeved at insensitive and ill-timed comments poking fun at those suffering from last week's earthquake and tsunami in Japan.

Read on...

Disability insurer AFLAC Inc. fired comedian Gilbert Gottfried as the voice of its iconic duck on Monday after a series of Twitter jokes about the earthquake in Japan, AFLAC's most important market.

Since 2000, Gottfried has voiced the duck in the insurer's TV ad campaign in the United States, quacking "Af-LAAAC!" in the comedian's famously abrasive voice.

Gottfried fired off a dozen jokes on the social media service over the weekend, all riffing in one way or another on the devastating earthquake and subsequent tsunami.

But AFLAC said his comments "were lacking in humor and certainly do not represent the thoughts and feelings of anyone at AFLAC."

AFLAC said it would start a nationwide casting call to find a new voice -- and noted that it was already using a different voice in the Japanese market, where it is the #1 foreign insurer.

The company made its name selling cancer expense policies in Japan in the 1970s, and still derives about three-quarters of its revenue in the country.
Copyright 2011 Thomson Reuters

Here's a taste of some of Gottfried's jokes that got him fired. You'll see the irony that not one of them was remotely funny, least not to me. But then again, I have hardly any sense of humor.

Japan is really advanced. They don't go to the beach. The beach comes to them. ~ 6:29 AM Mar 13th via web

Japan had put out this urgent plea...." PLEASE SEND US A FEW BIlLION RUBBER DUCKIES!!!!!" ~ 1:05 PM Mar 12th via Twitter for iPhone

I asked a girl in Japan to have sex with me. She said "okay, but you'll have to sleep in the wet spot." ~ 11:38 AM Mar 12th via Twitter for iPhone

For more tastless humor, go to:

Some might call Gilbert Gottfried a douchbag, yet he's not alone. There are many other "douchebags" out there using the same tactless, child-like humor and shock value to shine up their social media badges.

All I can say is you guys really are a classy breed of stupid.

How To Make Homemade Chicken McNuggets

You know those ultra yummy Chicken McNuggets that are so irresitable to your kids? Well, have I got great news for you! You don't have to spend $5.00 on a Happy Meal or drive down to the nearest street corner to have these delicious treats. You can now make them in the comfort of your very own home, right there with your kids watching with delighted anticipation.

Here's How...

All you need is:
* One whole chicken, thawed
* Food processor
* Flavored bread crumbs
* Canola or Vegetable oil for pan frying

Here's a quick 4 minute video that will demonstrate the entire super easy, and FUN process. Gather the kids around to watch so they can jump in and help.

Bon Appetit!

Not-So-Mundane Monday

My friend Leslee Horner in Florida wrote the following blog last week. When I read it, I was reminded of just why I love this woman and all that she believes in and seeks out in her life. It's very, very difficult to find friends like this. I'm glad she's in my life. I've learned and continue to learn so much from her soul searching.


Compassion and Empathy
by Leslee Horner March 9, 2011

In this time we are seeing a rise in self-protection and fear. There is a sense of competition strong among us. The feeling that if something is given to a suffering brother it is thus taken from me. We're clinging to our morsels, standing behind a shield of superiority-that we have earned something we dare not be forced to share. We walk with blinders on. Ignore the pain of others until it becomes our own. We put mere humans on pedestals and worship them even as they fall. We ignore the beat of our very hearts and the spark of divine within us.

We have decided to hide our light under a bushel to protect ourselves as the world goes dark. We call on the name of Christ as we defend the unborn children and let those born go hungry. Why pick and choose the innocent to protect? Why not love and honor them all?

It is easier to close ourselves off. Censor the message of humanity. Life thrives on compassion. From that place we give. As we give we shall receive. As souls we are one-united as God's children. In service to one another we are made stronger. As we withhold love, compassion and support from those who need it our spirit becomes fragmented and dark. It is then that fear drowns out love and though we may claim to know the name of God we are far from his grace.

Take off the blinders. Step out of yourself. Invite empathy and compassion into your experience. Without it the light in this world is much too dim...

At the end of the day I don't care about this liberal verses conservative crap. I care about people and when I hear about the pain of others it breaks my heart. My utopia is a country or society where people care as much about the needs of others as they do about themselves, where they can actually take a second or two to imagine how they might feel if they walked in another's shoes instead of judging from a safe and cozy distance.

You can sign up to follow Leslee's blog at:

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

~Update on Chrissy, the Wonder Foster~

She's crazy and we're in love! We hope that her forever family, where ever they are, will be just as taken by this little weightless wonder as we are.

Chrissy came home with us last Saturday afternoon, 3-5-11. Our primary goal is to love on her and fatten her up. It's already working.

When I come home, she's a delight to see and a very welcoming sweetie. If she could travel around in our arms all day, she'd never complain.

She loves to cuddle right next to me each night and gives (almost too many) kisses each morning. Much better alternative to my annoying alarm clock.

She's already replacing some of the weight she lost while living on the streets of Vegas looking for food. I am in awe of this little thing surviving out there for so long. I know I couldn't have done it.

So enough talk already. Here are some pictures taken from my phone. I have more from my camera that are on my laptop. They will hopefully come later.


I'll be raising funds for the Las Vegas Valley Humane Society and asking for sponsors in their upcoming Wag-A-Tail Walk-A-Thon Event on April 3rd. If you would like to support TEAM CHRISSY, please click the link below and donate.



Friday, March 4, 2011

Foster Friday!

This post is mainly for my local sweeties in the Las Vegas Valley but those of you far, far away can enjoy it too. And maybe get inspired to contact your local Human Society and make a difference in the life of a four-legged critter that needs love.

It's been weighing heavily on my heart for many weeks now to get my Roxi dog a canine companion. Most of you know that I am already the proud mommy of 2 senior kitties, my crazy Roxi dog and my lovely daughter, all on a single mommy budget, so of course, I said... "Why not? Bring it on!"

Fortunately luck would intervene and I found myself not acting impulsively and going out to local puppy mill pet shop and grabbing the first, cutest, non-house trained, chews everything, needs 24-hour supervision puppy I saw. I actually waited on this desire and did absolutely nothing except trust that someday an answer would come my way.

Well, my HP (aka Higher Power, God, Spirit Dude, Horton, whatever) came up with a great plan that is gonna ROCK! I applied at the Las Vegas Valley Human Society and the Southern Nevada Pug Rescue to be a foster Mommy.

Our first foster comes home (if she isn't adopted first) this Saturday afternoon. I feel like an expectant mother all over again, minus to preggo belly and sore boobies.

Here's a little bit about "Chrissy"...

My name is Chrissy and I am about 1 years old. I am a sweet, tiny little girl with a lot of love to give. I have beautiful brown eyes that match my coat perfectly! I was found wandering neighborhoods looking for food until finally someone took me in. I am a little shy, but I do warm up quickly. I do well with other dogs, but I am more of a lap dog. I love to be held and cuddled! If you are looking for a snuggler, then look no further! (

Chrissy is available for immediate adoption and will be hanging out at the PetCo off Rainbow and Lake Mead this Saturday, March 5th from 10am-2pm. If she doesn't find her forever family by 2pm, she comes home with me!!

We at the "Defx" household are very excited to be welcoming this little temporary addition to our home. We hope to help Chrissy grow into an even more loving and confident little Chihuahua so her forever family can find her and love her as much as we are going to do!

If you are interested in adopting Chrissy or another wonderful canine (or feline), please contact the Las Vegas Valley Human Society at
(702) 434-2009 or

If your are more inclined to open your home temporarily as a foster for a pet in need of a forever family, please contact Brooke O'Gara (Dog Coordinator with the LVVHS) at (702) 353-4836 or

Stay tuned for another Foster Friday to get an update on Chrissy!

Wednesday, March 2, 2011


Our Company is going through driver safety classes this month. I thought it didn't apply to me so I declined the mandatory meeting request. My VP politely insisted that I attend. I'm glad she did and here's why...

I'm a text-while-you-driver, even when my daughter is in the car. After watching the video embedded below and searching online for images relating to this stupidity, I am finally convinced that it is only a matter of time before I kill myself, my daughter or someone else if I continue to text and drive.

It's not something I am proud of but that doesn't bother me near as much as if I just put my phone in my purse and kept it in the trunk while driving WITHOUT passing on this message.

The following video was put out by AT&T in March of last year. It's 10:44" long but instead of blowing it off, sit your ass back down and just watch it.

I won't be able to imagine what the people in the video have to live with, the guilt, the loss, the shame. And for my sake, the sake of my daughter, and for those that love us, I hope I never have to.

If I really accept that I am not invincible, that I am not "that unlucky" and that yes, I too can be the cause of such senselessness, I might have a chance at being a better mother and fellow driver.

I have already shown my daughter what it's like to be a careless driver; now it's time to make things right, before it's too late; before she grows up to do the same thing behind the wheel.

Please watch - no graphic images in video

Below are some images related to texting while driving. They were found via Google Images. Some are extremely graphic, horrific images of accidents caused by texting.

If the video wasn't enough for you, maybe some of these images will stick with you. I am beyond caring if they are "inappropriate" or "too much" for this post. I am pissed that I have been this kind of driver and want to get the word out to those that will listen.

GRAPHIC IMAGES BELOW........................................


Wordless Wednesday

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Take Care Tuesday

Today choose to take car of your car. Afterall, it sure does take care of you. It takes you to the doctors office, to the bank, to work, to the ballgame, and countless other places that make your life a better place to be.

So today, give your car a little love. Here are some easy, quick ways to do just that!:

1. Check the tire pressure. If your tires are below the optimal pressure, you are tossing money down the drain, wearing out those tires faster which takes more money for new ones and putting your driving safety at risk. Most every gas station out there has air pumps. Some are free, some require quarters so gather some loose change and use it for good.

2. Wash your car at a Water Smart car wash. Nothing says "I love my car" like a clean, shiny car, inside and out. If you're in the Las Vegas Valley, click the link below to find a Water Smart auto wash near you for a $2.00 off coupon!
Also, most Terrible's car wash locations have FREE vacuums to suck out the dried up french fries and boogies on your floor mats.

3. Check your oil.
Look at your oil sticker, yea, the one you forget about constantly that sits quietly at the upper left corner of your inside windshield. What is it telling you? Doesn't hurt to type in a reminder in your phone when you will need that icky oil replaced.

4. Put the phone away.
This one is tough, I know. If you can handle keeping the phone out of reach for your commute, you increase your chances of saving yourself from a senseless fender bender or worse. This is mainly for you text-while-you-drive folks. Those that use hands-free phones, enjoy but still, please be aware of your surroundings. Nothing is more important than your safety, the safety of your fellows drivers and of course, your car.

Until next time...Safe Driving Folks!